How to make my husband understand me/ my needs?

You both need to sit down together and talk about it. What you have been doing, how you feel, what you want to happen, etc. It could be bad or good depending on how you go about it. Just find a time with him (soon so you know where you stand) and both of you sit down (without tv, music, laptops, phones, etc) and have a good chat. If either of you can't handle confrontation, write eachother a long letter of what you would say to one another if you where together. This could be a warm up to having a civilized conversation together and getting things sorted. Trust his words, start fresh, and be happy with whatever decision you make.